自然成长

前阵子，我在一个花盆里种了三颗羊角豆，左边的那颗羊角豆长得最快最粗壮，看起来就是最好的一颗，反而中间的那颗因为被两颗羊角豆围着而长得很慢，常常会被左边的那颗搞得东歪西倒的，所以为了保护中间那颗羊角豆，我就特地的拿了一条绳子把左边的那颗羊角豆拉离中间的那颗。

一直以来，我都觉得这样做是很完美的解决方案，三颗羊角豆都可以慢慢的长大，结果今天我发现我错了。

今天，当我回家的时候，发现左边的那颗羊角豆因为被风吹而搞得绳子被吹飞了，结果他无法自己站立而歪歪的倒下，就好像是得了软骨症一样的不论我如何扶正它都没有用，最后它还是需要那根绳子绑着才能够直立起来，我当时真的后悔这样的对待它，把最强壮的一棵树变得最软弱的一颗树，现在已经很难挽回了。

那一刻，我不禁有感而发，其实人类的成长就和树一样，我们应该从小就让他以最自然的方式去成长，身为父母的我们不应该强硬的把孩子拉到我们希望他成为的那个人，这样往往会适得其反的，像这颗左边的羊角豆一样，最后反而忘了要如何自己好好的生存。只是，身为父母的我们常常会忘了这回事，所以我特此写下这篇文以告诫自己。

Few months ago, I planted three ladyfingers in a pot, the left side ladyfinger grew fastest and strongest, it was clear to be the best ladyfinger among three of them. In the contrast, the middle one was the slowest one because of Sunshine was shielded by both taller tree around it, I can see the middle one always bended all around as influenced by the left side one. Therefore, I think out of a method to protect the middle plant, I purposely took a string to tie the left side plant away from the middle plant.

All the while, I thought this was the perfect solution, as all three plants can grow slowly on their own pace, but today I found I was wrong.

When I back to home this afternoon, i found the string of left side ladyfinger has released from where it was due to strong wind blew it away, but the left side plant can never stand still and bended all the way down, it just like a boneless people and couldn't stand still at all although I tried my best to hold it, finally it still needs the string to tie it to the same position for continue standing position. At that moment, I was so regret to treat it this way, because I have converted the strongest plant into the weakest plant, and I am not able to do anything to restore this.

Right there, I just enlightened that human development is exactly the same as a plant, we should let our kids grow naturally by themselves, instead of forcing them to grow into the person that we want them to be, else things will go wrong and we won't get things that we want, just like the left side plant, eventually the kid lost themselves and forgot how to live properly by themselves. However, as a parent, we will always forget this, so I write this down to remind me.

最左边的被拉着

倒下来的左边羊角豆